You’re engaged—congrats! By now everyone including your ex has heard about the big news, you’re still swooning, in cloud nine gushing over the proposal, and celebrating with your loved ones. Well, it’s finally time to start thinking about planning your wedding. It’s a monumental job which requires a lot of proper planning and can be so daunting not to mention other responsibilities such as a full time job to add to your busy schedule.
Be realistic on the overall goal on who you want to invite and where you want the wedding to be. Number speaks truth and without data, you are more likely to put or dig yourself into a financial hole. Pick a starting point to where you two feel comfortable with the number and start with that. Also, don’t forget to add contingent into the number. For example if the budget is $20K, you might want to add 20-30% contingency. Once you have an overall number, you can break it down into categories or vendors. It is okay not to have the exact number that changes over time. Here are some of the ticket items: Venue, Photographer, and Catering. The rest of the items such as: florals (how elaborate you want the flowers), dress, makeup/hair, cake, and rentals, etc. will depend on the number of guests.
Be transparent with your friends and families of whom you want to give the toast. Not having control of who should be toasting especially when alcohol is involved, you might have to carefully reconsider this option. Again, it is your big day. You should celebrate the way your heart desires. More times than not, “open” toasts can lead to disaster. Instead, have designated people give toasts so they can prepare ahead of time and you can keep your timeline on schedule (we recommend around 3 toasts— 5 max)!
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